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Maybe My OB/GYN Isn't Evil

Wednesday, 09 February 2011
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Sitting down for a conversation with your OB/GYN can help to ease your worries. Photo: davef3138 via Flickr.Today was the best appointment with the OBGYN I have had so far.

I received all kinds of good news today. She said my baby got an Olympic 8/8 on her ultrasound. Is it weird that I felt a little proud?

Also:
Baby's head is fully engaged (my doctor seemed shocked at how low down her head was).
I am dilated 1.5 cms
My cervix is 80% effaced

My prediction: Baby will be born before the week is through.

Another reason this was such a great appointment is that for the first time, I actually talked to my doctor. I avoided it for six months, resenting her for the simple fact that she's an OBGYN and I wanted a midwife.

I had convinced myself that I knew how she felt about things like natural childbirth and refusing to be hooked up to an IV. So today, I talked to her about these things. I was right about how she, a trained surgeon felt. What surprised me, however, was how gentle of a conversation it was. It was almost playful.

She respected what I wanted. I assumed she would laugh in my face much the way she did when she told me no doctor was going to put on a Speedo to deliver the baby in the water. She really did kind of lose my trust after that ignorant comment.

But today I figured now or never. We talked about my reluctance to be put on an IV, and how it was protocol at the hospital to have antibiotics via IV if I do in fact have Strep B. She said there was absolutely no way around it. I've put that one away until tomorrow when I find out if it's even a concern.

She wrote on my papers that I "prefer no epidural." But also told me not to put too much pressure on myself and not to feel defeated if I decided to have one. I appreciated that.

The last thing I told my OBGYN before she left the room was that I hoped she'd be there to deliver my baby. And I meant it.