Etiquette For Dating When You Have Kids

It's not easy for parents to introduce a new friend to their child when they start dating. Kids can feel threatened when a love interest comes into the life of a parent, especially if it's the custodial parent because a close relationship often develops between them, and the child can feel threatened. He may feel that the mother's affections are no longer secure, particularly if the adults are openly affectionate with one another. Children can also get upset when a stranger is invited into their special club—the family—without their permission. Sometimes they dislike a new partner because they feel they need to protect their other parent's interests even though that may not be an issue. All of these feelings can lead to anger, resentment and feelings of isolation.

Your new love interest may inadvertently be putting your child off. It is possible that he said or did something that struck a wrong chord for your child. Below you will find some etiquette rules for your significant other. Consider if s/he has overstepped some of these boundaries. It is very tough coming into an established family. Talk with your friend about these rules to help make things easier for everyone.

It will take time and effort to break through some of the barriers, but there should be a place for everyone in this relationship. However, it is the adults' responsibility to do most of the wiggling in order to make room.

6 Rules of Etiquette for Your Significant Other When You've Got Kids

1. If the child has a difficult time warming up to you keep trying. Don't dismiss or reject him.

2. Allow for a warming up period. Don't expect immediate affection.

3. Avoid put-down humor and never say, "I was just kidding." Never tease a child, even if that's your kind of joking.

4. Avoid doing any disciplining. That's the job of the biological parent.

5. The child's space is private. This includes bedrooms, bathrooms, tree houses, etc. Only enter if you are invited.

6. Allow the biological parent to spend time alone with their child without you tagging along.

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