Say It Right

One of my clients asked me to help her practice "convincing" her husband to join her at a self-improvement seminar. She was afraid to ask him outright for fear he might scoff at or trivialize her suggestion—because after all, he wasn't as spiritually aware as she was. She was in such a pickle over how to "say it right" that she practiced over and over again—but she was never content with how the words came out.

I suggested she take a few deep breaths to calm her mind. I then asked her to repeat the following mantra to herself (out loud or under her breath): "I am a good person. I mean the best for my husband. I have the intention to help my husband." Then I asked her to visualize a happy outcome from their conversation. I told her that as long as she holds a pure intention that their conversation will be a WIN-WIN for both of them and that the outcome will bring them closer and open up his world to better options in his life, then she has done her job.

I told her that no matter what the outcome (whether he ended up going to the seminar or not), she should never be afraid of to make a suggestion that involves helping another person. The only hiccup that can arise is when the person making the suggestion (in this case my client) has a self-serving need to see changes that may not necessarily benefit the other person (in this case her husband).

SL