The Power Of Letting Go

Sometimes the scariest thing for a child to do when they're getting off the swing set at the park is to just let go of the ropes.  Their feet might only be an inch or two from the ground, but until they feel the sand on their toes it might as well be a canyon below.  And then of course there are those children who seem to have no fear at all, jumping when the swing has reached its highest peak. I witness this phenomenon in my Reconnective Healing practice, and of course in my own life, on a regular basis.  Clients come to me hoping to have specific dis-eases healed, often times after trying other forms of therapy or the traditional medicine. They have been swinging on the playground of ill health, and while some of them jump with abandon and accept permanent physical and emotional healing instantly, others seem to need to feel their toe touching the sand before they can just let go.

The problem with needing reassurance that the ground is genuinely right under our feet is that sometimes it takes trusting it’s there for it to actually be there.  We feel like we are "always striving but never arriving" at the goal of health and wellbeing.  So I ask myself, what is it about those clients who jump with abandon that makes their healing so miraculous? Here are some things I have noticed:

1. They are open. These clients don't demand that the universe provide the healing they wish to have. They are open to the idea they will get the healing they want, or won't, but are happy to try anyway.

2. They are present. These clients aren't thinking of what will happen if this doesn't work, or what has happened in their life to bring these pains. They are in the moment of now and available to heal.

3. They are committed. These clients have decided to try the process of Reconnective Healing (for an appropriate number of sessions that work both with their financial availability and with their time). They aren't negotiating for more or less healings, or even questioning how many it will “take” to have the healing they want. They follow the recommendation of having three healing sessions in order to see what happens. These clients who have experienced incredibly powerful physical healings aren't planning their next course of therapy either. They commit and reap the benefits.

As a healing practitioner, I want to see all of my clients healed in a miraculous way, but through eight years of working with people of all shapes, sizes and from different parts of the world, I am confident that these traits existed in all or nearly almost all of my most dramatic healing experiences.

So what about those who don't possess those traits yet or aren’t ready to just let go? Will they also have healings? Certainly. Healings come in many forms, some more subtle and less dramatic than others, but if they look for them they can see where in their life changes have occurred that have guided them on their path.

About six months ago a client brought her mother to me for a Reconnective healing session. I had a session with both the mother and the daughter. After the first session the mother felt incredibly relaxed and a lovely sensation all over. As the mother had been experiencing constant pain for a few years now, having that time without pain was very peaceful for her. The daughter, however, said she didn’t feel much during her session and while believing in the work, she just couldn’t let go of expecting something earth shattering to happen. She kept calling me, week after week, asking why the healing hadn’t work for her. She just wouldn’t let it go.

I wanted to help both the mother and the daughter, but after a few weeks of her calling and asking why it didn’t work I just said, “Maybe you should try just letting go, stop asking why it didn’t happen for you like you had hoped it would, and see where in your life things have gone well for you.”  Well, to be quite honest she didn’t really like that and I don’t think that I’ll get a future booking. But the reality is sometimes you just need to trust, let go of needing to know everything and look at the areas of your life that are amazing. You must just find your healing there.

Fear is a natural part of living, but we don’t have to let it block us from living fully. Have a look at your own life and write down instances when you let fear stop you from doing what you’d love to be doing. See, if by letting go, whether you could have had a different outcome from what you’re experiencing now.