Change is Good
- Thursday, 09 June 2011
Growing up I was never one to love change. It always took me a while to adapt to a new situation especially when it came to situations like changing schools (high school to university was the hardest) or moving to a new home.
But as I got older, I realized, that change itself was a good thing and I started to welcome it. I didn't fear it anymore, but rather embraced it.
I have had a lot of change happen over the last 15 years. I moved from my hometown to a new city five hours away (and left my parents and siblings back home), I moved ten times since 1996, worked at 3 different companies until starting my own business back in 1999, got married, had three kids, and the list goes on.
The reason I am writing this blog is because I am once again going through a lot of change. At the end of this month I will be moving to a new city once again (only this time my family, my husband and kids, are coming with me), my kids will be changing schools, and life as we knew it for the past 8 years will be different come this summer. But that's ok, because change is good.
For me, change symbolizes a new beginning. A time to put the old behind me and start fresh. However, it is also stressful because this time around I am going through all my changes with my kids and partner -- I don't only have my own excitement, fears, and anticipation to deal with, but theirs too.
When I first told my friends we bought a new house and were moving, my closest friend told me I was crazy. She said "you just had a baby, you are writing a book, and now you are going to move houses? Are you nuts? Do you really need to add more to your plate right now?". She wasn't wrong but timing is everything. My daughter is going into grade 1 next year and we wanted to send her to a school that only accepts entry in grade 1, so if we didn't move by this summer, she would miss out on attending this specific school where she would learn a second language, which is important to my husband and I. In a way, we had to make it happen now. So I told my best friend the following: "The way I look at it, change such as moving homes, gives me the opportunity to cleanse. Going through cupboards and closets I haven't opened in five years and giving things away, and asking myself if I 'really' need to take this item with me." She told me I was still crazy, but I had a great attitude.
As I prepare for our upcoming change, there are days where my stress levels are through the roof, and other days when I take it in stride. However, I am doing my best to stay positive and trust that this is meant to be right now.
So my advice to those of you who are going through a lot of change at the moment is as follows:
1. Breathe -- this is the hardest thing to do because we forget to breathe deeply. Breathing brings oxygen to our bodies and helps us to relax.
2. Exercise, do Yoga, meditate or take a walk -- now that it is warmer outside, I try and take a walk at night with my kids. You may be super busy, but taking 15 to 20 minutes to escape from your busy day makes a world of difference.
3. Talk about it -- Don't keep everything inside. I am more of an extrovert so I have no problem telling people like it is. If you aren't comfortable with this, write down how you are feeling.
4. Support your body with healthy eating and good vitamins -- It may be harder to eat well when you are stressed or very busy. Some of my tricks include having a high green drink for breakfast if I am on the run, supplementing with B vitamins, magnesium, and other antioxidants to help support my body during the busy, stressful time.
5. Make lists -- Keep a pad and paper near you at all times (even at night on your nightstand), or track it on your phone but when you think of something you need to do, write it down. When I feel overwhelmed with how much I have to do, I write it down and seeing it on paper makes it seem more doable. And the best part is crossing each task out one by one as it gets done -- which feels like a great acomplishment.
Change may not seem like much fun when you are going through it, but perhaps when all is said and done and you have weathered the storm, you can look back and say: Change is good.